An Enneagram of One’s Own

I've been married almost 14 years. Which is both forever and not nearly long enough. But one of the things I most know about my person is that once he really gets into a thing, it's best to join him for the ride. Otherwise, there's going to be a side circus going on & I'll... Continue Reading →

Coming Soon…

Something new is about to happen at Rocket Fuel, y'all.

Wait, what's Rocket Fuel?!?

It's the place where I write about parenting and recovery and running and coffee. I cuss a lot. I ponder the big questions in life. I talk about my marriage. My spirituality. How my adulthood is shaping up--for better or worse.

There Is Nothing to Apologize For

I've been pondering a bit more how my anxiety manifests itself on the daily. It's been a companion of mine since I was 8 years old. And, truth is, we've settled into our own kind of peace, my anxiety & I. I've developed workarounds and strategies. Sometimes I just tell it to STFU. But it's... Continue Reading →

Notes from Field Day

When I was a kid, Field Day was my day of triumph. I got to shock people every year with the fact that I could RUN. I was fast. I guess I didn't look particularly athletic. And, to be honest, my parents didn't really push sports. And coming home dirty from school was frowned upon. So, yeah, rough & tumble wasn't really my game. Which made it even more fun to kick ass every year in the field day race.

Just Breathing Out Lovingkindness Over Here

So I told her to make her own damn sandwich. (Note: I did not actually say damn out loud. But I said it real, real loud in my head. I think she could probably hear it) She huffed and puffed while she made her sandwich. I took my coffee and my English muffin to the other side of the kitchen, where her huffing was muted by the snorting of the dog.

3 Lessons from Loss

I don’t think about her often, this baby that would’ve been my second child. But sometimes the missing of her will sneak up, unexpectedly. Sometimes.

Saying Goodbye to My Grandfather

Sometimes grief feels more like empty space. A vague longing for what used to be. It’s a nagging sort of sadness, one that I keep trying to reason away. But reason and grief have never been particularly compatible. So it goes. My grandmother used to get up before the morning light got strong and bright... Continue Reading →

Living with What Is (in Pugs & in Life)

I’ve finally, finally learned that, if I’m struggling, it’s likely because I’m trying to deal with what I wish was, instead of dealing with reality. If strapless dress had been dealing in reality yesterday, I wouldn’t have gotten chased down by a pug.

The Same Story

I learned the art of the finely crafted story in Alcoholics Anonymous. 

I know that's bizarre. But, look, I am a consumer of stories. And, so, while some folks wanted to get down to brass tacks about the steps they needed to take to get out of this mess they'd gotten themselves into, I was completely taken with the vulnerability of each person's story. The stories are what kept me there. 

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